The most basic question everyone faces in life is, “Why am I here?” – it’s a truth Rick Warren, the author of “The Purpose-Driven Life,” often recounts. In going further, however, and telling us what our purpose is – which coincides, not surprisingly, with Warren’s definition of Christianity – Warren is dead wrong.
No one knows what your purpose is except you.
Why did God put you here? What are you supposed to do with your life?
Writing about purpose is a multi-million dollar industry, perhaps even a billion dollar industry when courses about finding purpose are factored. “The Purpose-Driven Life” alone has sold over 30 million copies.
What each of these books and courses gets wrong is thinking that people don’t know what their purpose is.
We know — we just don’t believe it’s true.
There is a tiny voice inside each of us that asks us to give more, to love more, to do more with our gifts – we shush it.
To give more, to love more and to do more means having to confront our very legitimate fears of rejection. There’s always someone waiting to tell us that we shouldn’t, that we can’t – that we’re foolish, wrong and ridiculous.
Too many people want us to live their lives, not our lives.
This is the thing that keeps us from doing what that tiny voice inside of us is telling us to do. It’s not that we don’t hear the voice. It’s that we wonder which voice is right – the one inside of us or the one outside of us.
There is a way – a solid way – to determine which voice you should follow.
Follow the positive one.
Have you noticed that the voices coming from others are almost always negative?
It is one thing to give advice that says, “Do it this way.” Advice like that doesn’t feel negative. It feels helpful. It’s quite another to tell someone not to “be.” Advice like that isn’t advice at all. It’s a put-down, plain and simple.
Follow the positive. Those things you want to be and do – initially, don’t they fill you with joy? Water those thoughts, by giving them attention. Bathe them in sunshine, by taking action on them. They will grow.
This is where new research in neuroscience intersects with God. Gerald Schroeder, an MIT-trained scientist and author of “The Hidden Face of God,” explains that quantum physics is the tool for discovering the universal wisdom behind the material world.
So it is with insights coming out of the new field of neuroscience.
For example, noting 3 good things a day for 21 days has been shown to re-wire our brains to automatically see positives rather than negatives.
If you did this exercise, what would you note among your 3 good things?
You’d note the arrival of the things you want to do and be – the things you watered and bathed in sunshine.
And you’d automatically shift into your divine purpose.
Cool new techniques based on my columns can be found at www.neuroscience4us.com
Published in the Black Mountain News, April 23, 2014